The Vatican’s Refusal To Bless Same-Sex Unions Shows That Religion Is Still Stuck In The Dark Age
This week, the Vatican came out with a statement characterizing gay unions as ‘sins’ that cannot be ‘blessed by God’. It led to jubilation among many conservatives and outrage and disappointment among progressives. For me, it validated my choice to leave the oppressive arms of religion.
The Church decreed that gay unions were not ‘part of God’s plan’.
If that’s the case, why create gay people? God is meant to be omnipotent and all-powerful, after all. And it’s quite arrogant for any human being — ecclesiastical or not, to assume unassailable authority on ‘God’s plan’.
The Church characterized gay sex as ‘intrinsically disordered’.
Because as far as the Church is concerned, we have made no progress in the last nearly 50 years since homosexuality was declassified as a psychological disorder by the American Psychiatric Association.
The Church said that ‘marriage is a lifelong union between a man and woman and is intended for the purpose of creating life’.
With this revolting statement, the Church managed to insult and marginalize not only gay people but the polyamorous community, divorced people, and those that either choose to or are unable to have children.
The Church said that ‘any union that involves sexual activity outside of marriage cannot be blessed’.
So, the Church accepts gay people as long as they stay celibate. After all, it doesn’t recognize gay marriage — so how could gay sexual activity be acceptable?
The Church implied that their blessing of homosexual individuals goes insofar as they allow themselves to be ‘changed by God’.
This is the mindset that led to generations of tortured gay people with PTSD after going through abusive gay conversion therapy programs. Hating themselves, believing something is wrong with them, feeling that their souls are fractured, gritting their teeth through a false facade of heterosexual relationships, and ruining not just their own but others’ lives in the process.
The Vatican’s position on gay marriage is a culmination of years of gaslighting the gay community.
Pope Francis has been welcoming gay people into the Catholic Church and blessing them as ‘children of God’. He has held meetings with gay people and encouraged those that want to raise their children in the Church. He declared his support for legal protections for gay people in civil unions. This created a false sense of security for those desperately torn between the faith they were brought up in and their very human inclinations.
Despite all this, these recent comments make it clear that gay people are not considered equals in the Catholic Church. They are flawed; something is fundamentally wrong in their makeup. They are birds with broken wings— meant to be nurtured and healed but also a target of pity. Birds that can never fly into the kingdom of heaven.
In my opinion, the biggest problem with the Vatican’s statement is the language that they used. They could have simply said — ‘we will continue to not bless gay marriages because they do not align with our religious doctrine’. That would have been regrettable but not surprising — and certainly not offensive.
But no — they had to start a flaming discourse by typecasting gay people as mentally disordered deviants, using language that took us back at least fifty years. This is the sort of language that leads to hate crimes, and forces gay people to live their entire lives cowering in the proverbial closet, walking on eggshells, terrified they will be found out.
Not all keepers of the faith agree with the Vatican’s position —many priests and bishops are openly defiant. In Germany, 1,000 people, most of them priests, have signed a petition claiming that they will not refuse to give blessings to same-sex unions.
Critics have pointed out that if the Church does not come into lockstep with changing times, gay Catholics will continue to flee. It’s a valid point. In today’s hyper-connected world, religion is in danger of outliving its usefulness.
With information flowing freely 24–7, religion will have no choice but to change — it must in order to survive. Older adherents would die off and younger people are more enlightened, educated, and informed. They feel it's their duty to assert themselves and to question things. As an example, Christianity fell from being the primary religion for 73.7% of the US population in 2016 to 65% in 2019. Concurrently, those identifying as ‘no religion’ or ‘unaffiliated’ rose to 26% of the population.
Governments are catching up. Gay marriage was legalized in Canada in 2005, in 2014 in the UK, in 2015 in the United States. Yes, there are other countries in the world that are far behind but they will eventually catch up. What happens when the law of the land conflicts with its spiritual guardians? Who shapes the zeitgeist?
When they continue to see gay couples normalized on screens, living freely in your neighborhood, and out and proud at work, future generations will not see anything wrong with gay marriage. And they will see the Church for what it is — an anachronism with an outdated stance.
Change is coming. But it’s never pretty. This is a temporary setback. This is clear from the swift and immediate opposition in response to the Church’s decree.
In the Information Age, it’s a lot harder to bring down unilateral decrees and get people to blindly follow. People can think and reason for themselves. And the sooner the Catholic Church — and other religious orders — realize that, the better it is for their long-term survival.
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