“I am just so busy!”
How many times have you heard that today?
How many times have you said it?
We are all guilty of hiding behind the cloak of busyness. We wear it proudly to conceal how overworked, overwhelmed, and frantic we feel in our day to day lives.
Sure — temporary bursts of ‘busyness’ are understandable.
Today, I had three client meetings. During the 20 minutes between my morning and lunch meetings, I had 3 phone calls to return and a client complaint to deal with. During that hectic period, if someone had knocked on my door, I would have been tempted to tell them I was busy.
But what happens when, instead of a temporary affliction, busy becomes our new normal?
What happens when being busy becomes part of who we are?
Sure — being busy all the time makes us feel important. Oh, so many places to go and people to see!
But if we are always busy, are we ever really busy?
Maybe we really are overstretched.
Too many projects to work on. Too many commitments eating into our free time.
This begs the question — why take on more than you can handle? Why not learn to say no?
Maybe we have a scarcity mindset.
There is never enough time. There aren’t enough hours in the day. There is too much to do.
Why not learn to manage your time better? We all get the same 24 hours. Yet, some people use their hours to move mountains and cleave jungles — while maintaining serene smiles.
You want to start a side hustle but the field is too crowded. There are dozens upon dozens just like you — clamoring for the same opportunities. So you tell yourself you are too busy.
The truth is that opportunities are abundant and they are available to you — as they are to everyone else.
Maybe we are afraid.
I tell myself I am too busy to build a writing career. The truth is I don’t have confidence in my ability to succeed as a writer. It is much easier to tell myself a lie instead of making room for something new and exciting and terrifying in my life.
If you really want something, you will find a way. You will carve it into your calendar — if it truly gives you joy. You will ignore the fear festering inside you — if it is important.
Maybe we have become too comfortable.
I tell myself I am too busy to invest time in that professional development course. The truth is that I am warm in the cocoon of my comfort zone. Why focus on learning and growing when I make enough money to indulge my passion for designer shoes and overseas trips? Why risk taking a massive haircut in my career and status to try something new?
But comfort is cold and fleeting. It is like a blanket on a winter night — only good until your spouse snatches it away or until your furnace dies.
“I am too busy.”
I now catch myself every time my tongue starts forming the words.
And when someone knocks on my office door and starts to apologize…
“Sorry for disturbing you. You must be so busy…”
I gently interject…
“We are all busy. How can I help?”